<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post1160944695525193941..comments</id><updated>2012-01-18T13:54:53.702-08:00</updated><category term='DXM'/><category term='addiction'/><category term='boundaries'/><category term='love addiction'/><category term='relationship'/><category term='funny'/><category term='vulnerability'/><category term='loss'/><category term='sexual abuse'/><category term='addict'/><category term='relationships'/><category term='service'/><category term='self care'/><category term='anxiety'/><category term='obsession'/><category term='slipping'/><category term='family'/><category term='Letting go'/><category term='anger'/><category term='character defects'/><category term='drug abuse'/><category term='bipolar'/><category 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term='spirit'/><category term='incest survivor'/><category term='extramarital affairs'/><category term='switching addictions'/><category term='working the steps'/><category term='grateful'/><category term='pills'/><category term='prayer'/><category term='adoption'/><category term='innocence'/><category term='friends'/><category term='vicodin abuse'/><category term='recovery'/><category term='counseling'/><category term='my kids'/><category term='perspective'/><category term='rage'/><category term='vacation'/><category term='denial'/><category term='thankful'/><category term='nicotine'/><category term='parenting'/><category term='program'/><category term='journal entries'/><category term='relaxing'/><category term='intimacy'/><category term='serenity'/><category term='feelings'/><category term='codependent'/><category term='fear'/><category term='powerless'/><title type='text'>Comments on Eli Hornby: Update</title><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.elihornby.com/feeds/1160944695525193941/comments/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html'/><author><name>Eli</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/05170906912542161177</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_7tGY06P6TBk/Skm2IQP9wfI/AAAAAAAAAPU/rk7mWRo7fQI/S220/eli_avatar2.jpg'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>7</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>25</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-6161009888785712099</id><published>2012-01-18T13:54:53.703-08:00</published><updated>2012-01-18T13:54:53.703-08:00</updated><title type='text'>I&amp;#39;m thankful for your blog. I&amp;#39;m a coaddict...</title><content type='html'>I&amp;#39;m thankful for your blog. I&amp;#39;m a coaddict and wife of a sex addict. My husband&amp;#39;s father is a pastor and my husband grew up in a very religious family. It&amp;#39;s good to read from the perspective of the addict. I will continue to read and share.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Good luck on your journey of healing.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/6161009888785712099'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/6161009888785712099'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html?showComment=1326923693703#c6161009888785712099' title=''/><author><name>inertia</name><uri>http://myhealingtree.blogspot.com/</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-1160944695525193941' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/posts/default/1160944695525193941' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1566641461'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-2283804671509063719</id><published>2011-12-07T05:09:52.032-08:00</published><updated>2011-12-07T05:09:52.032-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Hi Eli. Glad to see at least one sex addict still ...</title><content type='html'>Hi Eli. Glad to see at least one sex addict still posting. I&amp;#39;ve recently started my own diary and found that most (at least that I&amp;#39;ve been able to find through google) are abandoned. Good luck.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/2283804671509063719'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/2283804671509063719'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html?showComment=1323263392032#c2283804671509063719' title=''/><author><name>Berry Head</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-1160944695525193941' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/posts/default/1160944695525193941' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1566641461'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-3848742135020111338</id><published>2011-12-01T03:39:11.472-08:00</published><updated>2011-12-01T03:39:11.472-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Nice to see you again Eli.</title><content type='html'>Nice to see you again Eli.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/3848742135020111338'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/3848742135020111338'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html?showComment=1322739551472#c3848742135020111338' title=''/><author><name>Marcia</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-1160944695525193941' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/posts/default/1160944695525193941' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1566641461'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-8337044178092870559</id><published>2011-11-30T20:20:00.478-08:00</published><updated>2011-11-30T20:20:00.478-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Eli, I am glad that you are doing well and making ...</title><content type='html'>Eli, I am glad that you are doing well and making changes that will lead to more contentment.  Getting through the marriage resentments is a good thing. </content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/8337044178092870559'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/8337044178092870559'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html?showComment=1322713200478#c8337044178092870559' title=''/><author><name>Syd</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html' 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it.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I&amp;#39;m pulling for you, my blogging friend.  I really am.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/3838998461516517029'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/3838998461516517029'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html?showComment=1322709598276#c3838998461516517029' title=''/><author><name>Kristin H.</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html' 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I found your blog just a few weeks ago and p...</title><content type='html'>Eli,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I found your blog just a few weeks ago and poured through it in a matter of days and prayed for a fairy tale ending...and then, it just stopped.  I was so worried about you and I&amp;#39;m so elated to see you back, sober, healthy and in a better place emotionally.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;My husband is also a recovering SA; attends SAA; working his steps; sees a therapist who worked under Carnes and is doing well.  We have our ups and downs but who doesn&amp;#39;t?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I&amp;#39;m rooting for you, Eli!!  =)</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/8630481729695535769'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/8630481729695535769'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html?showComment=1322701929156#c8630481729695535769' title=''/><author><name>LV</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-1160944695525193941' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/posts/default/1160944695525193941' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1566641461'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-3098172294809665456</id><published>2011-11-30T16:59:34.744-08:00</published><updated>2011-11-30T16:59:34.744-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Eli, I passed your name in my blog list a few days...</title><content type='html'>Eli, I passed your name in my blog list a few days ago and I wondered how you were doing. Its so good to hear from you. Walking in the light can only lead to good in our lives. We haven&amp;#39;t done organized religion in many years because of too many situations like your pastor created. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;My heart goes out to Linsey too. I know what denial and saying we have no problems to work through is like. Exhausting trying to keep that facade up and going. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Glad you are back!</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/3098172294809665456'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/1160944695525193941/comments/default/3098172294809665456'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html?showComment=1322701174744#c3098172294809665456' title=''/><author><name>Annette</name><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img1.blogblog.com/img/blank.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://www.elihornby.com/2011/11/update.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531906302983891705.post-1160944695525193941' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4531906302983891705/posts/default/1160944695525193941' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-1566641461'/></entry></feed>
