Comments on Eli Hornby: Asking for Help

I think it's very courageous of you to documen...

2012-01-18T14:14:23.943-08:00

I think it's very courageous of you to document your journey even though you know you're not fully there. I think the process is just as important to note as the result. It helps others, even wives of addicts like myself.

Eli, so glad to read you again. It's not your...

2011-08-27T14:38:57.551-07:00

Eli, so glad to read you again. It's not your relapses that define you, but your willingness and ability to keep coming back. You are very brave. Keep going deeper. Keep showing up. Keep being honest. You can do this one day at a time.

You are more than the length of your sobriety.

-invisigal

don't need to say much else, Kristin. just gl...

2011-08-25T16:51:02.253-07:00

don't need to say much else, Kristin. just glad you're a part of the conversation.

As for my boss - it did and it didn't. Still ...

2011-08-25T16:50:27.028-07:00

As for my boss - it did and it didn't. Still need to write about that. also, it's nice to be "wondered about" :)

what an encouraging thing to read - that someone&#...

2011-08-25T16:49:51.930-07:00

what an encouraging thing to read - that someone's out there who will be honest with me, and who's willing to read even the stupidest of the stuff I do. thanks

Yep, it's all about coming out of hiding for m...

2011-08-25T16:48:51.263-07:00

Yep, it's all about coming out of hiding for me right now. Great to hear from you my friend.

I especially like what you said about connecting w...

2011-08-25T16:48:17.987-07:00

I especially like what you said about connecting with someone when you read their struggles. I am often deeply moved when I read someone who is being honest about something I've been afraid to share.

Nice to know I'm not the only one.

2011-08-25T16:47:24.023-07:00

Nice to know I'm not the only one.

hang in there brother - my first year of recovery ...

2011-08-06T12:48:42.996-07:00

hang in there brother - my first year of recovery I had over 50 relapses - never quite trying - the miracle will happen ~Brave Addict http://www.BraveAddict.com

I've been told a few times to keep my shit to ...

2011-07-31T11:10:12.503-07:00

I've been told a few times to keep my shit to myself. That others should not have to endure the struggles that I go though. People die holding the darkness inside. In the recovery world, suicide happens much to often to those who end up alone, their thoughts telling them that "it's" all hopeless, there is no place to turn.

I agree with Indigo that speaking of our failures, our struggles, our humanness, is an important part of our recovery. When I read of someone's struggles, I feel connected with them, knowing that I am not alone on this sometimes difficult journey. When I share my struggles, the thought with which I struggle looses a bit of it's power. Sometimes it takes years to stop struggling so never give up. Share over and over, most people don't mind.

Nice to read your writing. Keep coming back.

I think hiding our down moments only adds to the a...

2011-07-29T15:54:45.637-07:00

I think hiding our down moments only adds to the addictive nature. Something I like to call stinking thinking. If no one knows we're not as mired in our addiction as we think...

The truth Eli, trying to hide the addiction is what got us all into trouble to begin with. The more accountable you make your actions the more you put yourself out there, the more you're saying I need help. You're also saying I'm human and I'm really trying here.

You're always going to struggle sweet friend. So...why not continue to struggle with your recovery until the results begin to make sense and you finally want it. I'd say it's far better to have friends beside you in your struggle than trying to go it alone and hiding.

As for a book? We all have stories, failures, recoveries, and in the end it's not a story we're telling but a life we're struggling to live.(Hugs)Indigo

Eli, In order to keep what we have, we have to be ...

2011-07-29T15:40:11.905-07:00

Eli,
In order to keep what we have, we have to be willing to give it away! You don't have to write about what wonderful things go on in your life. Part of recovery is admitting that we do relapse sometimes many, many times before we are where God wants us to be. Perhaps sharing your pain, sharing the stuff that you think is so awful will allow you to receive feedback that will help build you up because we have all been there done that. Just tell the truth. Even if it's one line that says, "I'm having a sh***y day."

I do not think less of you for relapsing. I do worry that by not allowing yourself to be brutally honest about what is going on in your head that you are setting yourself up for failure. The enemy wants you to fail. God wants to use our mistakes for His glory!

Blog on, the good the bad and the ugly. I will support you when you need it and I'll send you comments that you don't have to post telling you when you are doing things that are harmful to you. NO SECRETS!!!

Much love to you my friend!

I've been wondering about you, Eli. I'm s...

2011-07-29T15:26:23.924-07:00

I've been wondering about you, Eli. I'm sure you're heard that you're only as sick as your secrets. I hope it goes well with your boss.

I'm glad you're back, Eli. I was just thi...

2011-07-29T15:19:13.031-07:00

I'm glad you're back, Eli. I was just thinking of you the other day. I identify with what you wrote regarding the blogging. It is like a conversation and, for me too, it has helped me feel less lonely.

I don't know what else to say, other than keep coming back. People do care.